Peaceful relationship 

Matthew 18:19 TPT

"Again, I give you an eternal truth: If two of you agree to ask God for something in a symphony of prayer, my heavenly Father will do it for you."

Music worship, love, agreement between brothers and sisters glorify God. And Jesus promised that we reap through such prayers an especially great harvest.

Maybe because during discussion we encourage, edify, teach each other. When one gets discouraged, the other one is there to help... 💪So then these two praying Christians support each other and together they can persevere. This is love, this is the nature of Jesus.

❗Curry Blake warned us in his teaching to keep the union and peace in marriage so that our joint prayers can be successful. 👿 Because the devil often wants to cause disagreement to weaken us.

I wondered: is it possible never to fight❓ Of course, not. But it is a wise strategy to declare that our union in marriage is strong.🗣️ We love each other unconditionally, tenderly like Jesus loves the church. We value each other in Christ more than anything worldly or more than our selfish wishes.

🙌I bless your marriage and joint prayer life to be amazing, rewarding, adventurous, fruitful and strong in Christ. Good, divine things multiply for sure. And your holiness lies in Jesus!

A precious comment by Azuka:

God showed me mercy with my husband. I grew up believing it was normal to shout, quarrel and fight cos I watched my parents settle marital issues in my older siblings home so I thought it was normal and expected it 😅

And then I met my husband who spent the first few years of marriage teaching me we can disagree without fighting, quarrelling or shouting. So once I start to raise my voice he calmly tells me he's not deaf 😂

I learnt to address issues after I'm calm cos that's what he does. He won't speak until he can say it calmly.

You know you can only fight with someone if they're willing to fight you too but when you have someone who exercises self control with their emotions, you'll have no choice over time to do the same.

So we disagree and have misunderstanding but its different.

I've also learnt over time with people to listen to what is being said and not focus so much on the emotion being displayed cos its for a short while.

Small gems

1. Mind your words!

I have noticed that I can be so led by Holy Spirit and pray passionately. But some minutes later I may get upset and speak impatiently with hubby. 

The devil wants to cause strife make us think that we don't qualify for the blessings. He wants us to break the precious union with our spouse, so that we get unsure whether our prayers are answered.

I realised that no matter how much I am filled with the Spirit, I still need to resist being led by emotions in the next minute, when my heart gets broken by an insensitive statement from the person I love the most.....

We are sensitive, but we need to be alert and not let emotions carry us away from peace...

2. Let God have the first place in our hearts❤️

It is my husband whom I love the most among people. Therefore it is he who can hurt me the most. 

But actually if Jesus is my lord, my Heavenly Husband and if I focus on Him, no silly word can upset me. I know He is between us, perfecting our marriage, He brings forgiveness, true repentance- so then I don't take hubby's careless statements so seriously. I focus on how much God loves me!

I tell myself that I mustn't let a human's temporary negative opinion be more important to me than God's amazing love! 

I tell myself that I mustn't idolise my hubby.❗

I need to expect love from Jesus first.❤️

His love enables me to forgive hubby and see things turning around with my spiritual eyes. 

3. God is at work between us!

When my heart is aching I tell myself not to speak back harshly, because it will only bring more sorrow.

I need to turn to God first, and not try to solve the situation in my own strength. 

When I am silent Holy Spirit is working hard!

Often when I do nothing but pray silently, God's Spirit is convincing my husband of the truth, of the necessity to be in love union, to forgive, to see what is good in me. Holy Spirit does a lot better than work than my harsh words. God brings out amazing rich love from my husband and divine wisdom. 

4. Pray! 

I also realise that I need to say the confessions about our marriage often.

Pour out your heart to God, when you need help, comfort, restoration..

5. Time to speak. Time to be silent.

And sometimes it helps to speak up to your spouse - but in love. I pray we can speak the truth in love even when our hearts are aching. 

Suppressing our wishes, hurts - is not good. We need to learn to communicate openly about what hurts, what is unjust, what is important, what is our opinion... 

Sometimes it is good to speak the truth in the heat of the conversation - but more often it is good to do that after we have both calmed down. Only Holy Spirit can. show us, which. is right and when. His grace is enough. 

6. Use divine wisdom!

Bringing up Bible verses even when the atmosphere is heated up - can also be a strong way to establish peace, to show our deepest desires, to set a good example or target. Of course we need to speak grace, we mustn't misuse the Bible verses to condemn the other person. 

7. Intimacy 

Too little sex can cause much tension in a marriage, too. So praying and taking action for a balanced and passionate sexual life, having enough free time for each other and dressing nicely can help...

But we need "intimacy" with our Jesus, too. 

Private time alone with God and joint prayers with the spouse bring mighty changes.

8. Honesty and Strategy

Have honest conversations with your spouse in love, 

Together you can decide to learn from the mistakes, decide together on changes.

Comfort each other after a dispute.

Make a strategy how to avoid strife and situations that lead to strife.